Copyright June 2000, Dave Palmer
For what it is worth, here is a log of correspondence which shows some of the issues a person deals with when facing grief caused by death of a loved one. There are duplicate entries and entries which might make no sense at all. This is not an attempt to convince you to treat your grief a certain way. Everyone responds to grief in their own way.
In this case it was the loss of a spouse, loss of a marriage, loss of a 20+ year relationship, and loss of future plans and hopes that triggered these notes. To respect the privacy of others, all email addresses have been removed. In most cases the email shown is only mine.
This is presented only for purposes of illustrating the range of feelings and the way in which these feelings might change over time. This is not an attempt to solicit feedback or response to any issue. As the reader will find out many of the issues have been resolved through various techniques.
There is no prescription or checklist for dealing with grief. There is no single prayer, no single answer that will resolve the issues that surface when dealing with the loss of a loved one.
A chaplain recommended this book to me. I wish Ellen and I had read it years ago. I strongly recommend it to you.
"How to go on living when someone you love dies" Therese A. Rando, Ph.D., originally published as "Grieving" paperback, published by Bantam Books, August 1991 ISBN 0-553-35269-5 Covers adult, child, spouse, parent death. Sudden or anticipated.